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  1. Sharon O'Day
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    Rebecca, either I’m “living right” or my blog is too vapid to trigger criticism. At least on that front, so far so good! But I have read comments on my FB wall that have made my blood boil. Snarky comments … more HOW they were said than WHAT was said. Each time I’d remind myself that “Facebook is Forever.” And that the last thing any of us needs is a public food fight! So I’d take a walk around the block, then come home and add enough new posts to the wall to push the snarky one down and out of plain sight. As they say, “out of sight, out of mind.” Besides, at that point, it becomes THEIR problem … 😉

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    • Rebecca Livermore
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      Sharon, thanks as always for stopping by.

      Interesting that you don’t get negative comments on your blog, but do on Facebook! I know people who get negative comments on their blog, but everyone cheers them on FB. No telling why!

      Reminding yourself that “Facebook is Forever” is a good thing to do, and it certainly is true for anything online. You really can’t take it back. Even if you delete something, there is a good chance it is still stored somewhere, so it’s best to not say anything you don’t want out there permanently.

      I also agree that when it comes right down to it, the rude commenter is the one with the problem, and I think that is obvious to most people reading it.

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  2. Michele
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    Rebecca,
    I have had one person, not quite criticize me, but seriously object to one post. Because of my content, most people say things like…You’re so creative. Personally, I wish people would consider a little more what I write about and respond.
    I do have to say, however, if someone took a real swing at me…I probably wouldn’t like it and not know exactly how to respond.

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    • Rebecca Livermore
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      Michele, thanks so much for stopping by and for your comment.

      You know, I think it’s a double-edged sword. On one hand, we want people to be passionate about what we write, and on the other hand, sometimes that passion can turn ugly.

      I recently got a negative comment on a YouTube video, and have debated about whether or not to delete it. So far I’ve left it there, but it was a really weird, randomly negative comment about me that had nothing to do with the content of the video.

      I think there will always be some negative people out there who for whatever reason say or do unkind things. At least in my case, when that has happened, it reveals some less than great things in my heart, which I suppose serves a purpose when it comes to my own growth and character development. But like you stated in your last sentence, I sure don’t like it!

      Thanks again for stopping by.

      Rebecca

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  3. Theresa Leschmann
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    I guess I have been fortunate in that I really haven’t received much negative criticism on any of my blogs. That could be because so few people actually read them! lol I think your suggestions make sense though.

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    • Rebecca Livermore
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      Theresa, your comment made me smile. I do think levels of traffic have a lot to do with it, and I think that those blogs that have become more popular tend to be attacked more. I’m not sure if it’s jealousy or what! There are some popular blogs that I follow that have people who find fault regardless of what the subject of the blog post. I’m not sure they are just grumpy people or what! At any rate, when we’re criticized, whether on our blog or elsewhere, it’s good to have the right perspective — which is admittedly easier said than done!

      Rebecca

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  4. Caroline Whatley
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    Great article. I think people often forget how hard it is to be willing to put yourself out there and write for the public. I was criticized a long time ago when I started writing about Martial Arts. The critic didn’t like my point of view moreso than my writing.

    One technique I used was I invited this person to write a counter article and I would publish it. You know… it’s been nearly 6 years and so far this person hasn’t ever come back. It takes a lot to be willing to write and share your feelings.

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    • Rebecca Livermore
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      Caroline, that sounds like a great approach, and I’m honestly not too surprised to hear that the person never took you up on the offer.

      I haven’t really had nasty blog comments, but I have had some not so nice comments on my articles, and when the comments have been written by other writers, I’ve gone out of my way to find one of their articles and leave a REALLY nice comment on them. They don’t tend to bother me after that, and if anyone is paying any attention, it portrays me in a much better light than the person who left a bad comment on my article.

      Thanks for stopping by, Caroline. I appreciate it!

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  5. Cheryl
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    I am too new a blogger to have received any negative comments yet. These are very good points, though. I hope I never need them. Great comments, too! I love turning the tables…

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    • Rebecca Livermore
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      Cheryl,

      Thanks so much for stopping by and for your comment.

      Yes, turning the tables has really worked well for me. It’s not always possible — there are times when it’s not easy to find an article of the negative commenter to leave a positive comment on. But I think however we do it, when we respond with dignity and calmness, the character of both parties becomes pretty clear.

      Have a great Sunday, Cheryl!

      Rebecca

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  6. Amanda Dollak
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    My blog has been up and running for about a month, and I’ve already gotten some criticism. Most of it I asked for from my fellow bloggers, and I learned much from it. However, I’ve gotten completely insane and rude criticism that I knew was completely wrong. I just ignored it and deleted it. I’m not going to waste my time with the internet trolls that go around and personally attack people for no reason!

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    • Rebecca Livermore
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      Amanda, I think there must be some very unhappy people in the world in order for them to be motivated to leave as you so aptly put it, “insane and rude criticism.” Like you, I appreciate constructive criticism, but the rest of it should be ignored and deleted, for sure!

      Thanks so much for stopping by and leaving a comment. Much appreciated!

      Rebecca

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  7. Barry
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    Thanks for this Forum. i like to be controversial in my writing and a lot of emotional stuff is expressed into it. I dont like being clean and clinical about what I write, But the message is always there and I clearly explain my point. Admittedly my satire is sometimes is only appealing to a required taste, and most of the time its only the Humor i mainly want expressed as my message along with my input on any given subject . But the political correctness police seem to inhabit the internet as some sort of payed off sentinels on George Soros’s payroll.

    I think censorship of your own insensibilities is a no no, when it comes to writing and should not be the Politically Charged Embarassment Society cant accept as something different, Even if you are chastised by a Bully on the Internet or Praised by an Ignoramus for all the wrong reasons Saleh.

    Face Book is a safe haven for these sort of people, because it was founded by that whole ethos of a Pimply Faced Teenagers with raging uncontrollable hormones becoming reluctant Adults, while fumbling around with puberty and who just happened to be studying computer science at University at the same time.

    This is why Inquiring minds interconnect and disconnect on Face Book simultaneously, In a New York Second, you can tell if someone is on the same page as you or not, Thats the moment you realise Face Book is not forum for anything. Its just a means of people expressing themselves in the wrong moment and at the wrong time IE mainly from my experience, If you are trying to be sincere on face book, forget it, some one will always come at you riding in on that teenage tangent.

    Got to remember to, Face Book has got to be, one hell of intelligence surveillance mechanism for the Authorities also. Gosh they knew that the moment some one coined that Phrase … CYBER BULLY and before you could say Mark Zuckerberg is a House Hold Name Anyway Hope I have enlightened someone Hopefully, Rather than peeved them off for some stupid reason or another.

    Thanks You …. Like Your Blog and your Information.

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    • Rebecca Livermore
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      Barry,

      Thanks so much for stopping by and for your comment. I appreciate hearing about your experiences. I do think that Facebook has its place, as does Twitter and other social media options, but it’s very important to find out what works for you and your audience.

      It sounds to me that you have a good handle on what works for you and that you aren’t afraid to speak your mind. Keep up the good work!

      Rebecca

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